Objectives of the Parent-Adolescent Relationship
The sense of self-worth in the relationship is high.
Communication is direct, specific, clear, and honest. Humor is used often.
Rules are clear, explicit, and well defined; yet they are also flexible, humane, and appropriate.
The parent-child linkage to society is open and hopeful.
The parent-child group has a sense of being an integrated whole, the sum of which is greater than its individual parts.
Parenting operates as an open system and interrelates with an extended family and the outside world while still maintaining the privacy of the nuclear bond.
Both are capable of high levels of intimacy. There is appropriate expression of feelings, both positive and negative.
Both enjoy playing together, and regularly engage in behavior that is playful, creative, or experimental.
The partnership has a sense of time together, and there is an emphasis on the process of coming together and a focus on significant life cycles.
Relationship patterns have stability, yet they are altered as life changes demand.
Both can deal effectively with grief, loss, or pain without the use of alcohol or drugs.
Each member is allowed to be an individual and different without rejection. Love and acceptance predominate.
Individual members feel responsible for their feelings and behavior and do not try to blame others or shift responsibility to another.